Not So Common Life?

Getting at life’s good stuff: A how to guide

Consider this:

The last time you lost your keys did you immediately find them looking where they were or did you find them through a process of looking where they weren’t?

There is only one answer here. You looked where they weren’t. Otherwise they wouldn’t have been lost.

Honestly, it’s a lot of work and kind of a pain in the butt. But, the keys are lost and you’ve got to find them.

So looking where things aren’t and dealing with the pain in the butt stuff are the basic ideas driving the Not So Common Life.

It’s simple when you break it down, think of it like a generic bucket list for accomplishment in life.


  • Be more fit
  • Feel better
  • Understand emotion
  • Be optimistic
  • Be more connected
  • Love yourself
  • Love others
  • Love life
  • Have understanding
  • Be more welcoming and content
  • Be brave and courageous

We are all searching for items on this list just like we’re searching for lost keys. But you have to know this, when you’re looking for the keys, you gotta know what they’re not.

This is the Not So Common Life foundation, giving you the tools so you can recognize things for what they are and what they aren’t so you find what you need in yourself.

You need to know that people have been looking for lost keys since the beginning of time. And during that search, the general wisdom has uncovered three axioms, or truths, based on all that reasoning that are now used as a critical cornerstone of modern cognitive science.

They are very simple to understand and cornerstones for any accomplishment. Steven Sloman has a very nice book, “Causal Models: How People Think About the World and its Alternatives” discussing the hows and whys of the way we perceive things and change pretty well. He didn’t invent the ideas, they’ve been around for ever and they really are simply logical.

Not So Common Life stands on Setven’s shoulders, as it does the shoulders of countless other human beings, and uses the framework as axioms for personal accomplishment.

The basic NSCL axioms for personal accomplishment:

  • Changing X will likely cause change in Y
  • This change is asymmetric, a change in Y won’t budge X
  • This cause and effect is bound by time, Y does not occur before X

Knowing these axioms and using your will to put them in play, your mind can put together what your world is now, how it could have been, or otherwise can be in the future.

You accomplish change with these axioms when you apply them to your every day life.